How moving your awareness can reduce anger in your life
I had a very interesting session today with one of my clients. We talked about the control of anger and how to manage this in way that can be of benefit to them.
When your awareness travels to the part of your mind that is angry, you need to lovingly bring it back to the area of the mind that is calm and peaceful. It is only at this point that you're able to question the reason why you allowed your awareness to travel to this part of the mind. Example:
Someone asks you the question 'What are you looking for in a man/ women?' You react in an aggressive tone and hurriedly finish the conversation. One version of this is, you got angry because you were rushing to get somewhere and it was the 100th time someone had asked this very question within the last month and you were tired of repeating yourself. Now from this explanation we know why you got angry, but what do you do to stop it happening again?
Well, next time someone asks you that very question, be considerate of where the other person is coming from. Maybe they're asking because they want to scan their brains for a potential match. They don't know it's the 100th time you've been asked that question, so no need to be annoyed. Also if your rushing and don't have time to explain, just say that to them. Let them know that you'll call or text them later about it, again they don't always know you're in a rush.
Another example is when we hear things like 'She really annoyed me today' or 'I'm the happiest when I'm with him'. What they're feeling is correct as they're experiencing that emotion, but why they feel it is incorrect. When you are annoyed with someone, you've allowed your awareness to travel to that part of your mind that is angry. Why did you not move your awareness to that part of your brain that is logical or sensible or non-judgemental. You choose to move your awareness to that part of your mind, therefore it's not 'She annoyed me' it is 'I annoyed myself'. It's not 'They make me happy', it's I make myself happy.
Essentially what you're doing in those moments is moving your awareness from one area of our mind to the other. If we continue to think 'I'm annoyed, I'm annoyed' then that is where your energy will flow, and that is what grows. Where awareness goes energy flows. The more energy you give to something it will grow, irrespective of it being positive or negative.